Family Law Attorney

Specializing in Divorce & Mediation

Supporting clients throughout the process of divorce & enabling out of court settlements

Ailie L. Silbert


Ailie L. Silbert Family Law and Mediation is a boutique matrimonial firm dedicated to supporting clients in all matters of divorce and family law.

Leading Divorce Attorney and Mediator in New York City and Surrounding Areas

About Ailie

Ailie prides herself in providing experienced, heartfelt online and in person divorce mediation and legal services.

Ailie L. Silbert is a successful matrimonial attorney and mediator based in Manhattan. As a leading dispute resolution professional with 18 years of experience, Ailie is honored to serve as the President of the Family & Divorce Mediation Council of Greater New York and on the inaugural New York County Supreme Court Roster of Matrimonial Mediators. She is a New York Metro Super Lawyer and a member of the New York and New Jersey Bars.

Ailie founded Ailie L. Silbert Family Law and Mediation in 2012, a boutique law firm dedicated to providing clients with appropriate resolution options in all matters of divorce and family law. By drawing on her extensive training and experience, Ailie helps families and couples settle with limited court intervention.

Ailie has fostered a reputation of excellence among her clients and colleagues. She is known for her detail-oriented approach and insight, along with her commitment to highly personalized client care.

Ailie began her career clerking and mediating in the courts and has practiced divorce and family law exclusively for over 15 years. Prior to launching her private practice, Ailie was a founding associate at Rosenthal & Herman, PC and handled complex, high net worth matrimonial cases alongside Manhattan's top attorneys, including Pamela M. Sloan, William C. Herman, Karen B. Rosenthal, Susan L. Bender, and Bernard G. Post. She has worked effectively with clients and law partners on everything from settlement negotiations to motions, trials, forensic evaluations, and other litigation matters in New York City, Westchester, Long Island and Northern New Jersey.

Ailie graduated with honors from Cornell University, College of Arts and Sciences, and Seton Hall University School of Law, where she was awarded a Dean Scholarship. She holds post-graduate certificates for Family and Divorce Mediation from the New York Center for Interpersonal Development (NYCID), approved by New York State Unified Court System's Office of Alternative Dispute Resolution, a New Jersey Law Clerk Mediation Qualification certificate and completed a NYCID Advanced Mediation Practicum.

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About the Firm

"Your divorce process should be as personal and individual as you and your needs."

After a successful career as an attorney supporting Manhattan's top matrimonial and litigation firms, Ailie founded Ailie L. Silbert Family Law and Mediation in 2012 to pursue a better way.

Namely, to empower clients in New York City and elsewhere with highly personal counsel and mediation options to reach amicable outcomes truly reflective of individual needs and goals. As a lawyer, Ailie serves clients in New York and New Jersey. As a mediator, Ailie also offers Online Dispute Resolution (ODR) options to parties nationwide.

Through virtual and in-persons meetings, Ailie L. Silbert Family Law and Mediation focuses on non-litigated settlements and amicable divorce options for one reason: to better serve clients through one of life's most difficult times.

Families choosing a mediated or negotiated settlement have a stronger voice throughout the divorce process. Working with Ailie L. Silbert Law and Mediation is faster, easier, and less stressful than navigating solely in court.

With vast experience supporting same sex, straight, traditional, non-traditional, married and unmarried couples with their divorce, custody, prenuptial and postnuptial matters, Ailie L. Silbert Family Law and Mediation is ready to serve you.


Bar Admissions

  • New York, New Jersey, U.S. District Court, District of New Jersey, 2003


  • Seton Hall University School of Law, J.D. (awarded Dean Scholarship), 2002
  • Cornell University College of Arts & Sciences, B.A. Cum Laude, 1996


  • New York Metro Super Lawyer, 2020-present
  • Family & Divorce Mediation Council Greater NY (FDMC)
  • President, June 2019 – June 2021
  • Vice President, June 2018 – June 2019
  • Board Member, 2016 – present
  • Public Relations Committee Chair, 2016 - June 2019
  • Continuing Education Committee, 2015 – June 2018
  • New York County Supreme Court Roster of Matrimonial Mediators, 2020 – present
  • Queens County Supreme Court Roster of Matrimonial Mediators, 2013 - present
  • New York Family Court Custody/Visitation Program Consultant Mediator, all counties, 2013 - 2015
  • Judicial Law Clerk and Mediator, Hon. Ira E. Kreizman, Sup. Ct., Law Div., Freehold, NJ, 2002 - 2003
  • Judicial Intern, Hon. William G. Bassler, U.S. District Court, District of NJ, Newark, NJ, 2000
  • New York City Bar Association ADR Committee, 2018 – present

Mediation Certifications and Training

  • Center for Interpersonal Development, Advanced Mediation Skills Development Practicum
  • Center for Interpersonal Development, Family & Divorce Mediation Post-Graduate Certificate, approved under Part 146 by NY State Unified Court System’s Office of ADR Programs
  • Law Clerk Mediation Training and Qualification approved under NJ Rule 1:40-12
  • Certified Law Clerk Mediator, NJ Superior Court

Publications & Lectures

  • Presumptive ADR in the NYS Unified Court System: What Family Law Mediators Need to Know about the New Programs – FDMC Continuing Education Lecture, 2020
  • Late Life Divorce: Examining the Nuances, FDMC Continuing Education Lecture, 2017
  • Matrimonial Trial Institute II: Proving Your Case - Counsel Fees and Expert Fees, NY State Bar Association (NYSBA), 2012 - researched and authored course materials with Susan L. Bender, Bender, Rosenthal, Isaacs & Richter LLP

Memberships & Affiliations

  • Family & Divorce Mediation Council of Greater New York (FDMC)
  • New York State Council on Divorce Mediation (NYSCDM)
  • New York State Bar Association (NYSBA), Family Law Section and Family Law Section ADR Committee
  • New York City Bar Association, ADR Committee
  • Cornell Club NYC
  • New York and Westchester Women’s Bar Associations NYC